Here's one kid that is getting naughtier by the day!
Hard to believe she was once this little munchkin...just lying down quietly..googoo and gaagaa-ing..
Oh yes, she is definitely entering the naughty ages. Tantrums and demands and yelling. Aduuhh... And she's adding all this new vocabulary that a mother doesn't necessarily want to hear from her five year old kid. No foul words but words like stupid - she likes to say a lot! Errghh...and she's in this booing-jelir lidah phase as well. Double erghhh...
As my mom would say, 'Begitu la kalau budak...kamu pun begitu dulu..' Really?? I hate to think I was ever like that. Haahaa...But, it's all too easy for grandparents or relatives or others to say this kind of statement or give their so called advice on what to do and how to raise the kids and what not. At the end of the day, it is you, the parents who still have to handle the brats *oopss*. Patience is definitely a virtue one needs as a parent. Nope, I rephrase - you need double, even triple doses of patience.
There are times when she gets up to her naughties and I am hot on the edge of madness *double meaning = marah dan juga macam mau gila*, that I feel like...'geramnyaa..' Macam mau pukul sikit budak nih to teach her a lesson. But I never. I can honestly say I never ever hit her all this while. Maybe just a pat. But never a smack or a rotan or even a pinch or a lastik. I don't believe it is the way to discipline or teach. There has to be another way. I believe in talking and reasoning and teaching by playing/spending time together and showing by our own actions. If the parents hit or pinch or lastik the child, won't they grow up doing the same thing to others or even to their children in the future. I feel guilty that the thought even enters my mind. Why is it even the first thing that I automatically think of? To hit. My parents never hit me. But I guess it is a norm that we see and hear of too much in our society and it becomes like a gut reaction one automatically goes to.
Well, the talking and reasoning and teaching by playing/spending time together and showing by our own actions isn't working much now. She very much has a mind of her own. Very defiant and quite hard-headed this little girl. Wonder where she gets it from... I am hoping that this will tone down as she grows a bit more. Will it?
I am very mindful though that whatever her behaviour, she somehow got it from us. And her immediate surroundings. We are/were the ones that made her that way. Because she saw us do it, or we did not show her the right way, that it somehow still falls back to us. But of course, nobody is perfect and we can't be there all the time and we sometimes don't do the right things ourselves. So, it happens. Heavy responsibility it is being a parent. So at that edge of madness, I guess this is the thought that stops me. I pray it always will.